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  1. I think you say whatever you feel right at the moment. However and whatever people’s reactions are their own. I have a couple of friends who have lost children and a cousin who passed away when she was 16. It took awhile for them to navigate these situations. Sending you fierce love and hugs.

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  2. My husband has also struggled with this. He’s not an only child, but has been for more of his life than he had a sibling. When I first met him and asked if he had any siblings, he said, “I had a brother.” I’d been drinking and almost quipped, “What–you don’t have him anymore?” Thank goodness I had some internal filter left!

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  3. My husband’s brother lost a son 20 years ago. They have always said they have three children and do not shy away from talking about him in everyday conversation. I know they have had 20 years so they’ve had time to try to adjust. Not that you ever do. But I think it’s important that you and your family do not shy away from speaking freely about your son. Just my opinion. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. 🙏

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  4. I haven’t lost a child in death, but she and I are estranged. I have the same dilemma when people ask how many children I have. it’s hard to know what to say.

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  5. Sending you love. My aunt and uncle lost my cousin in her 20s. They still say they have 2 daughters. I’m still thinking about you and your family as you struggle with this impossible grief. Please know I’m here for you.

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